Now let me just mention that lately when Kerry is, shall we say, naughty (she's two AND she's a "spicy Jiangxi girl" so it does happen) and I sometimes have to scold her, her new way of apologizing is to do something sweet or cute and then say "I make Mommy happy." Sometimes its like a statement, and other times it's more of a question. I usually say something like "Yes, Sweetie, you make Mommy very happy. Mommy loves you, even when you're a little stinker." I find it interesting that she does this, and I don't want her getting the idea that my love for her is conditional.
Anway, we made our way upstairs and I started dinner. And all evening she was just being extra sweet and kept giving me hugs and wanted to hold my hand through dinner-time and she kept saying " Make Mommy happy?". I was wondering what it was all about and then I finally traced it back to the litter-box incident. I don't think she'd ever heard me use that tone of voice and I guess it startled her. I felt about this big. I felt so bad that I'd snapped at the poor cat, in front of Kerry, and then she somehow felt she needed to make me "happy" again. Needless to say I gave her lots of hugs and kisses and assured her that Mommy is very "happy" and we had a good tickle fest and lots of giggles and she seemed to be just fine by bed time. I'm glad to know that Kerry is starting to show concern for the feelings of those around her, and show empathy, but I'm definitely going to be more careful with how I handle irritation from now on.
On another note, and because a new post = photos, check out how long Kerry's hair is getting!
2 comments:
Oh Gin you are not a bad mommy at all! We all have done this!! Love ya
Awww, Poor Kerry Lu. But you shouldn't feel bad Gin. You are a fabulous Mommy. And no one is perfect.
Lilah used to play on me a fair bit and even still tries her arm! She uses kisses and rubbing and telling me I'm her favourite over Baba (Can you believe that????!!) to try get the stuff she wants. They test and even play on emotions sometimes and I really think that is completely normal for their age group...to test their and our boundaries.
I hope it makes you feel better. You are an absolutely amazing Mommy.
Hugs, Jill.
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